DANIEL ADENIMOKAN REFUSED TO PICK CALLS FROM PASTORS WHO INTERVENED, HE ASKED FOR DIVORCE MORE THAN SEVEN TIMES – ACTRESS DORIS SIMEON

Popular actress, Doris Simeon, was recently a guest on breakfast show, Your Views on TVC. During the interview with the topic ‘Life After Divorce,’ Doris shared her experience and relived the events that led to her separation from estranged hubby and baby’s father, movie director, Daniel Adenimokan, as well as steps she made to salvage the union.

She also dispensed timely advice to women who are going through the same issue. Excerpts…

People say when a woman divorces, she’s not thinking about her children, but herself; what do you think about that?

I don’t think it’s true. Yes, some women might be thinking of their own happiness, but why would I carry a child for nine months, go through the pain of child-bearing, and I’ll say I want to get out of the marriage because I want to be happy without thinking of the child? I’ll definitely think of the child. Wouldn’t I take care of my children at the end of the day? Why am I working if it’s not for them?

Life after divorce; how does a woman pick up the pieces of her life and move o

Like I always tell people, old things have passed away, and all things have become new. I would say that you just have to put it behind you. There might be a situation that you might have to visit some other time, but for the meantime, you have to forget about it and focus on whatever you need to do to make it in life, and also make your children amount to something, rather than dwelling in the past, because if you do, you wouldn’t move forward.

It got to a point that I had to look at myself in the mirror, and I said to myself, ‘Doris, you are a beautiful woman, why would you want to kill yourself over nothing?’ And that’s when I began to think: I’m very hardworking and I try to do a lot of things and venture into any business that I think can work and bring in money for me.

In cases like this, people often try to get clerics to intervene in the matter, did you go through that?

Yes, I did. There are some people that he listens to when they talk to him, so I tried to call pastors, and they kept calling him, but he wouldn’t pick their calls. At some point, I just realized that he had made up his mind finally, so I should just try and move on with my life also. It took me a year to get to that point, but in between that time, I was trying to focus my mind on other things such as work.

 Did it affect you?

No, not really, it didn’t in any way. Physically, it affected me…you know seeing him and all that, but one day, I just said to myself that I need to do something to even wow him so that he’ll see that I’m surviving without him. I decided to be more visible and make noise about myself, and not kill my career.

That was a very good approach because when you look inward and decide to bring out your best; it’s a very good revenge because the person would realize that he made a mistake by leaving you. Per adventure his new relationship crumbles, would you take him back?

No, sorry. That was a man that asked for divorce over seven times, long before we finally separated. At every little problem, he would say ‘I want divorce, I want divorce.’

Aww, what if he says it was the devil or he was charmed?

We have a child between us, but no! Why would he allow the devil even when I was telling him that we should pray about it.

What have you learnt from your divorce?

I’ll say we both have issues, but I think I’ve learnt from my own part of the problem because I have not closed my door towards marriage. If it comes, good; if it doesn’t, fine; but if it comes, I’ll have to adjust and make things better. I won’t make the same mistakes I made in my last marriage.

What advice would you give to women going through things like this at the moment?

I’ll say they should put God first in everything though. Put things behind you, make sure you lookyour best and work harder. Don’t kill yourself because of any man because you have kids to take care of.